Short Paper Helping Darryl and Samar to Fight Fairly
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Darryl and Samar are both same-sex couples who have been in a relationship for 11 years. They have been married for 15 months, and their state legalized same-sex marriage shortly
after their marriage. Darryl is a European American male, while Samar is an Indian American male. Samar relocated to the United States when he was 15 years old. Samar explained some issues he faced while adapting to American culture. Samar feels his accent creates a language barrier and cannot explain his role in the relationship with Darryl. Samar expressed that he feels misunderstood. Darryl stated that Samar doesn’t support his feelings and distorts their relationship. He also explained that Samar doesn’t check on his emotional and social well-being.
The culture's origin surfaced between Dr. Goody, Darryl, and Samar during the session. Darryl appeared to be the only Caucasian American. As a migrant from Turkey, Dr. expressed her
understanding of Samar's frustration. The link factor between Samar and Dr. Goody is that they are both American immigrants. All three individuals are working professionals with college degrees. Samar gained a master's in computer science and has worked for a shoe company as a database manager. He also did most of the computer-related work for Darryl's business. Darryl earned an MBA and owned a small business offering party-planning services. Dr. Goody reflects on the men's concerns and their noted dynamic in the session that their communication can sometimes be ineffective with the other. The community presents a critical issue for Dr. Goody as Darryl presents a direct/active approach and Samar an indirect passive approach in communication. (Duan & Brown, 2016).
The cultural differences, the dynamic, and being a same-sex couple play a role in the communication challenges the couple faces throughout their relationship. Dr. Goody observes
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how cultural differences create misunderstandings in their relationships. Darryl, raised as a Catholic, has put a strain on his cultural beliefs and religion, which can make it seem. His behavior is cruel toward Samar's feelings. Samar's ethnic background challenges in communication and social-emotional understanding could play a role in Samar's indirect/passive approach. Dr. Goody continued the session by utilizing the needed skills, such as micro-skills, allowing clients to speak about their experiences and reflecting on open-ended questions. Those skills allowed Samar and Darryl to open up to Dr. Goody and each other. There was some tension
between Darryl and Samar because Darryl was more willing to discuss everything. I do not see a different way I would approach a situation like that, as Dr. Goody used the proper skills that allowed the clients to communicate and understand each other's concerns.
As a same-sex couple, Darryl and Samar have faced adversity. Neither of their backgrounds supports the LBGQ community and their relationship. Toward the end of the session, both parties expressed their need to communicate better. Personally, and professionally, both men have had terrible experiences in the world. Throughout their 11 years of relationship, they have fought to gain respect from their surroundings, including families. The couple's dynamic supports the other, with some needing to understand the other's experiences and communicate more actively. With communication, they can outline similarities in their past experiences. Additionally, with the help of Dr. Goody, they can be more self-aware and supportive of each other.
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These codes of ethics must be considered during counseling sessions with Darryl and Samar, just like any other client. B.4.b. Couples and Family Counseling In couples and family counseling, counselors clearly define who is considered “the client” and discuss expectations and
limitations of confidentiality. Counselors seek agreement and document in writing such agreement among all involved parties regarding the confidentiality of information. In the absence
of an agreement to the contrary, the couple or family is considered to be the client (American Counseling Association, 2014). A.4.b. Personal Values Counselors are aware of—and avoid imposing—their own values, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Counselors respect the diversity of
clients, trainees, and research participants and seek training in areas in which they are at risk of imposing their values onto clients, especially when the counselor’s values are inconsistent with the client’s goals or are discriminatory (American Counseling Association, 2014).
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References
Duan, C., & Camp; Brown, C. (2016). Becoming a Multiculturally Competent Counselor. SAGE
American Counseling Association. (2014). 2014 ACA code of ethics.
https://www.counseling.org/doc/default-source/default-document-library/2014-code-of-ethics-
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