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CandaLee Parker
Sister Hollie Sanders
FAML220: W06 Zoom Meeting
15 February, 2024
W06 Zoom Meeting
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Discussion Questions
Discuss the following:
From Sister Sanders -
please read during meeting and respond to questions below: I feel that understanding the “Influence Pyramid” is so important to good parenting, that if I could only teach one concept each semester, it would be this one! This concept has helped me immensely as I have parented my teenagers, particularly one of my children who would
definitely fall under the category of "wayward". As this child struggled with substance abuse, promiscuity, truancy, etc., I really studied the pyramid to see what I could do differently. Because our ability to correct and teach can be greatly reduced when an older child rejects most communication and connection, the parent is left to study other parts of the pyramid. Because I was a single parent at the time and had less opportunity to focus on
the "Build Relationships with Others Who have Influence" section, I was left to really look at myself and obtaining a heart of peace and connection with God. What are my motives? Are my motives pure and clear to my child? What personal weaknesses do I have that may
be contributing to my child's struggles? Am I seeing this child as the Savior does?
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Before taking the course, how did you measure “success” in parenting and why does this measurement matter?
Measuring success as a parent involves gauging our success on what we even know about parenting. I know that I attended the Focus on the Family series on four different occasions to gain insight for effective parenting. We can measure the time spent with our children as a measure of success. Quality time together is important. I believe that measuring values and legacy are important; passing down family traditions, beliefs, ethics, and cultural heritage. 2.
What are your thoughts and reactions from the Nate Mitchell video? Do you think he was promoting permissive parenting with his advice? Why or why not?
I agree that permission parenting
allows children more freedom which can encourage creativity, confidence, and exploration. I do not think that he was promoting permission parenting but giving an example that permission parents often have warm and nurturing relationships with their children. Their priority is emotional connections and avoiding harsh punishments. I think this can be happen but clear rules, boundaries, structure needs to happen or the children might not make good decision-making skills, lack self-discipline, and important life skills. They may 1
think that they are entitled without making or understanding the value of responsibility and effort. The children may struggles with the regulation of their emotions if they haven’t learned positive coping skills by given too much freedom without accountability.
3.
How did you use the Influence Pyramid to diagnose the actual problem in the Cooke family (Super Nanny video) and helpful solutions?
The Cooke family faced issues with their three daughters; disrespect, rudeness, and aggressive behavior. Jo Frost identified the root causes by evaluating the communication patterns and dynamic of the family. He introduced strategies to address problems such as household rules, clear expectations and rules for behavior, the reflection room for the children to calm down and reflect on their actions, the princess reward chart for positive reinforcement of desired behavior, and a thought box for expressing feelings and resolving conflicts. The influence pyramid emphasizes empathy, understanding, and behavior. The Cooke family began to see positive changes with improved communication, establishing a nurturing environment, and consistent discipline. 4.
Why is it so easy to say “been there, done that” when hearing or reading the same thing again? How can this philosophy be detrimental for parents?
The phrase been there, done that
is used to illustrate that one has already experienced a similar situation, feels a sense of familiarity, and complacency. It also can imply that the topic holds no interest. I guess it is important to recognize that this type of philosophy can be detrimental for parents to practice. When parents begin to dismiss their child’s emotions or experiences as casual, it can hinder open communication. We are learning in this class that children need validation and understanding. This is important during critical moments in their lives. If a parent uses this phrase too frequently, the parent risks overlooking the child’s unique emotions and perspective. We should, as parents, actively listen and engage in meaningful conversations to make sure that we are establishing a healthy parent-child relationship.
5.
What are your thoughts and insights from the Groundhog Day video? How can you
connect it to what you have been learning? The Groundhog Day video illustrates how our cultural practices blend science, traditions, folklore, relationships, and community. When we learn about various traditions and cultures, we recognize the importance and richness of our human experience and the differences between facts and stories and how they interplay with each other. As the groundhog emerges from its burrow, the understanding deepens as we explore both the fun, the humorous, the serious, and the practical aspects of life. 6.
Many people equate punishment with discipline and use the terms interchangeably.
Why do you think your definition of discipline is vital in how you see and respond to misbehavior?
Discipline and punishment are often confusing but they have distinct meanings, implications, and
consequences. 2
Discipline
focuses on teaching and guiding the behavior. It works to instill positive habits, responsibility, accountability, and self-control. I feel that it encourages intrinsic motivation and personal growth. We can learn from our mistakes and make better choices in the future. Discipline strengthens parent-child relationships by instilling communication, empathy, and mutual respect. It allows for open communication and understanding. Discipline addresses misbehavior with by working through the consequences with communication, understanding, and
mutual respect. It provides alternative behavior, setting boundaries, reflection, and problem solving. This allows me to teach my children to manage their impulses and make positive choices based on our values.
If I view discipline as a growth-orientated and positive approach to how I respond to misbehavior, I can focus on understanding, focus on the learning and empathy. Punishment can have short-term effects and lacks the depth needed for meaningful and positive changes. 3
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