Giving Repair Advice
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COM 102 Interpersonal Communication
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Giving Repair Advice
Whether expert or novice, each of us gives relationship repair advice, and probably each of us seeks it from time to time from friends and sometimes from therapists. Here are a few situations which call for repair. Use what you’ve read about in the chapters (as well as your own experiences, readings, observations, and so on) to explain what is going on in these situations. What repair advice would you give to each of the people in these situations? 1. Mike and Jim, friends for 20 years—had a falling out over the fact that Mike supported another person for promotion over Jim. Jim is resentful and feels that Mike should have given him his support which was tantamount to getting the promotion and a good raise which Jim and his large family could surely use. Mike feels that his first obligation was to the company and chose the person he felt would be the best job. Mike feels that if Jim feels this way and can’t understand or appreciate his motives, then he no longer cares to be friends. Assuming that both Mike and Jim want the friendship to continue or will at some later time, what do you suggest Mike do? What do you suggest Jim do?
2. Tom, a junior in college, recently came out as gay to his family. Contrary to his every expectation, they went ballistic. His parents want him out of the house and his two brothers refuse to talk with him. In fact, they have now come to refer to him only in the third person and then with derogatory hate speech. Assuming that all parties will be sorry at some later time if the
relationship is not repaired, what would you suggest Tom’s mother and father do? What do you suggest Tom’s brothers do? What do you suggest Tom do?
3. Clara and Rosie have been best friends since elementary school and even now, in their twenties, speak every day and rely on each other for emotional and sometimes financial support. Recently, Clara betrayed a confidence and told several mutual friends that Rosie had been having
emotional problems and had been considering suicide. Rosie found out and no longer wants to maintain the friendship; in fact, Rosie refuses to even talk with Clara. Assuming that the friendship is more good than bad and that both parties will be sorry if they don’t patch up the friendship, what would you suggest Clara do? What do you suggest Rosie do?
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