The car he was driving had skidded off the road and flipped over in a ditch. The woman who was with him had been seriously injured. No charges had been laid and no one had ever said that it was Tony's fault. "But," Father Tony explained, "I was sure that everyone secretly blamed me and thought that I was a bad driver. I wanted to prove to the world – or at least to myself – that I knew what I was doing behind the wheel. I started driving faster and more recklessly, just to show that I could handle a car. I reached the point where none of my friends would ride with me. Then that happened," he said, pointing to the picture. "I was in the hospital for a long time. I'm lucky I came out alive. "While I was in the hospital, an evangelical minister used to come and visit me. He said my problem was that I was a sinner who was refusing the Lord's forgiveness. At first I just thought he was crazy. But I had a lot of time to think while I was lying in traction, and I began to think that maybe he was right. I knew I had never forgiven myself for the accident that paralyzed Rachel. As I lay in that bed, I began to see that because I hadn't forgiven myself, I kept doing more and more stupid things. I wanted to punish myself or to prove that what I did wasn't really that bad. The accident was the starting point for one long line of failures. I started to see that unless I found a way to put that accident behind me for good, things would just keep getting worse." "So what did you do?" “Since I didn't know what else to do, I started to pray for forgiveness." Ouray had been leaning forward listening intently, but when Father Tony mentioned prayer, he slumped back into the chair and recrossed his arms. "I should have known that's what a priest would do." “I wasn't a priest then, Ouray. In fact, I wasn't very interested in God. I was just a university student who didn't like the way his life was going and who wanted to do something about it." “Yeah, but what could prayer do?" “Among other things, it could change my attitude in a way nothing else could." And that was the beginning of Ouray and Father Tony's friendship. Father Tony helped Ouray to understand that forgiving yourself isn't easy, but since everyone messes up sometime in their life it's something everyone needs to learn how to do. "Everyone has two choices," Father Tony said. “They can refuse to forgive themselves, like Judas, and be remembered forever as failures; or they can accept forgiveness and forgive themselves, like Peter, and become better people because of their mistakes." Ouray didn't change overnight. His tough act had become part of who he was; he couldn't just drop it. Eventually, however, he did stop looking for punishment everywhere he went. He also stopped doing things just to prove himself, and he became better at accepting his own failures and the failures of others. I guess you could say that Ouray eventually decided he would rather be like Peter than like Judas. Reflection Questions 1. Why couldn't Ouray forgive himself? 2. When is it hardest to forgive ourselves?

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Go Ahead and Jump (Short Story)
"I bet you can't make that jump without wiping out!" Darren yelled as he gunned the engine on his dirt
bike. "Just watch me!" Ouray hollered back. He circled back a little way so that he could get a good run at
the ditch. He knew he could do it. He'd done it before when he was out here on his own. The trick was to
turn your bike in the air just before you landed so that you'd hit the track on the other side at the right
angle. Ouray flew through the air over the ditch, wrenched his body and his bike to one side and made a
perfect landing. Darren circled back to try the same trick. He succeeded, but barely. "I want to try that a
few more times." "Sorry, man," Ouray said, "I have to go. I promised l'd be back before six." "No problem.
I'll just practise on my own," Darren answered. "See you tomorrow." He drove his bike through the wide
part of the ditch to get into position to jump again. Ouray headed for home. Just before he drove into the
woods, Ouray looked back to see how Darren was doing. He was just in time to see a group of older kids
jump Darren. Ouray turned to go help. But there were five of the older kids and they were all big. Ouray
knew that he and Darren alone wouldn't stand a chance. He turned his bike again and raced full speed to
get more help. A little while later he came tearing back through the woods with five more friends. They
met Darren limping along, pushing his bike. He looked bad. Ouray felt like a jerk. He couldn't get the
feeling out of his head that he had betrayed his friend. A little voice inside him was yelling, "You're nothing
but a coward. You could have helped him but you were too scared. What kind of jerk runs away when his
friend is in trouble?" The other kids were all talking with Darren about what had happened and trying to
help him with his bike. Ouray didn't say a word. He wanted to tell everyone that he'd done the only smart
thing. But everything he could think of to say just sounded lame. After a few minutes he said, "Well, I've
gotta go. I brought you enough help to get you anywhere you need to go, and l'm gonna be in big trouble
for being so late." Ouray spent the whole night sitting alone in his room trying to justify his choice.
Somehow, he just couldn't forgive himself. By the time morning finally came he was mad at everything
and everyone, especially Darren. "I know Darren thinks I'm a chicken now. It's as if everything I ever did in
the past doesn't count! One screw-up and you're labelled a coward forever. I'll show him. I'll show them
all!" Ouray growled to his empty room. Ouray began to change. It was as if he was looking for trouble just
to prove that he could handle it. He took every chance he got to irritate and aggravate the older kids in the
school. He got beaten up a few times, but that just made him more aggressive. He was going to show the
world that nothing scared him. Darren tried to talk with him a few times. He even tried to get Ouray to go
driving bikes again once his was fixed. But Ouray didn't want to have anything to do with his old friends,
especially Darren. He was sure that Darren and the rest of his old "gang" looked down on him as a wimp
and a betrayer. So, whenever Darren asked him to do something, he said he was busy. Eventually,
Darren gave up. He explained to his girifriend, "Ouray used to be a lot of fun. Now he's just a jerk. It
makes no sense. It's not like he's doing this stuff for kicks. He's miserable and he's making everyone else
miserable, too!" Who can say what would have happened to Ouray if his parents hadn't gotten desperate
and made him go talk with Father Tony. Father Tony taught counselling at the local university. Ouray's
mom met him when he gave a presentation at their church. She begged him to talk with Ouray and he
agreed. When Ouray walked into Father Tony's office for the first time, it was clear that he did not want to
be there. He barely nodded when Father Tony said hello. Then he threw himself into the nearest chair,
crossed his arms and stared straight ahead. Father Tony sat down in another chair and didn't say a word.
On the wall in front of Ouray was a photograph of a fancy red sports car wrapped around a telephone
pole. After a while, Ouray's curiosity got the better of him. "Why do you have that there?" he asked. "It's a
reminder," Father Tony said. "It's a reminder of the mess I can make of my life when I refuse to leave the
past in the past." "What do you mean?" Ouray's attention was caught. Father Tony told Ouray about an
accident that he'd had when he was in university.
Transcribed Image Text:Go Ahead and Jump (Short Story) "I bet you can't make that jump without wiping out!" Darren yelled as he gunned the engine on his dirt bike. "Just watch me!" Ouray hollered back. He circled back a little way so that he could get a good run at the ditch. He knew he could do it. He'd done it before when he was out here on his own. The trick was to turn your bike in the air just before you landed so that you'd hit the track on the other side at the right angle. Ouray flew through the air over the ditch, wrenched his body and his bike to one side and made a perfect landing. Darren circled back to try the same trick. He succeeded, but barely. "I want to try that a few more times." "Sorry, man," Ouray said, "I have to go. I promised l'd be back before six." "No problem. I'll just practise on my own," Darren answered. "See you tomorrow." He drove his bike through the wide part of the ditch to get into position to jump again. Ouray headed for home. Just before he drove into the woods, Ouray looked back to see how Darren was doing. He was just in time to see a group of older kids jump Darren. Ouray turned to go help. But there were five of the older kids and they were all big. Ouray knew that he and Darren alone wouldn't stand a chance. He turned his bike again and raced full speed to get more help. A little while later he came tearing back through the woods with five more friends. They met Darren limping along, pushing his bike. He looked bad. Ouray felt like a jerk. He couldn't get the feeling out of his head that he had betrayed his friend. A little voice inside him was yelling, "You're nothing but a coward. You could have helped him but you were too scared. What kind of jerk runs away when his friend is in trouble?" The other kids were all talking with Darren about what had happened and trying to help him with his bike. Ouray didn't say a word. He wanted to tell everyone that he'd done the only smart thing. But everything he could think of to say just sounded lame. After a few minutes he said, "Well, I've gotta go. I brought you enough help to get you anywhere you need to go, and l'm gonna be in big trouble for being so late." Ouray spent the whole night sitting alone in his room trying to justify his choice. Somehow, he just couldn't forgive himself. By the time morning finally came he was mad at everything and everyone, especially Darren. "I know Darren thinks I'm a chicken now. It's as if everything I ever did in the past doesn't count! One screw-up and you're labelled a coward forever. I'll show him. I'll show them all!" Ouray growled to his empty room. Ouray began to change. It was as if he was looking for trouble just to prove that he could handle it. He took every chance he got to irritate and aggravate the older kids in the school. He got beaten up a few times, but that just made him more aggressive. He was going to show the world that nothing scared him. Darren tried to talk with him a few times. He even tried to get Ouray to go driving bikes again once his was fixed. But Ouray didn't want to have anything to do with his old friends, especially Darren. He was sure that Darren and the rest of his old "gang" looked down on him as a wimp and a betrayer. So, whenever Darren asked him to do something, he said he was busy. Eventually, Darren gave up. He explained to his girifriend, "Ouray used to be a lot of fun. Now he's just a jerk. It makes no sense. It's not like he's doing this stuff for kicks. He's miserable and he's making everyone else miserable, too!" Who can say what would have happened to Ouray if his parents hadn't gotten desperate and made him go talk with Father Tony. Father Tony taught counselling at the local university. Ouray's mom met him when he gave a presentation at their church. She begged him to talk with Ouray and he agreed. When Ouray walked into Father Tony's office for the first time, it was clear that he did not want to be there. He barely nodded when Father Tony said hello. Then he threw himself into the nearest chair, crossed his arms and stared straight ahead. Father Tony sat down in another chair and didn't say a word. On the wall in front of Ouray was a photograph of a fancy red sports car wrapped around a telephone pole. After a while, Ouray's curiosity got the better of him. "Why do you have that there?" he asked. "It's a reminder," Father Tony said. "It's a reminder of the mess I can make of my life when I refuse to leave the past in the past." "What do you mean?" Ouray's attention was caught. Father Tony told Ouray about an accident that he'd had when he was in university.
The car he was driving had skidded off the road and flipped over in a ditch. The woman who was with him
had been seriously injured. No charges had been laid and no one had ever said that it was Tony's fault.
"But," Father Tony explained, “I was sure that everyone secretly blamed me and thought that I was a bad
driver. I wanted to prove to the world – or at least to myself – that I knew what I was doing behind the
wheel. I started driving faster and more recklessly, just to show that I could handle a car. I reached the
point where none of my friends would ride with me. Then that happened," he said, pointing to the picture.
"I was in the hospital for a long time. I'm lucky I came out alive. "While I was in the hospital, an
evangelical minister used to come and visit me. He said my problem was that I was a sinner who was
refusing the Lord's forgiveness. At first I just thought he was crazy. But I had a lot of time to think while I
was lying in traction, and I began to think that maybe he was right. I knew I had never forgiven myself for
the accident that paralyzed Rachel. As I lay in that bed, I began to see that because I hadn't forgiven
myself, I kept doing more and more stupid things. I wanted to punish myself or to prove that what I did
wasn't really that bad. The accident was the starting point for one long line of failures. I started to see that
unless I found a way to put that accident behind me for good, things would just keep getting worse." "So
what did you do?" "Since I didn't know what else to do, I started to pray for forgiveness." Ouray had been
leaning forward listening intently, but when Father Tony mentioned prayer, he slumped back into the chair
and recrossed his arms. "I should have known that's what a priest would do." “I wasn't a priest then,
Ouray.
fact, I wasn't very interested
od. I was just a university student who didn't like the way his
life was going and who wanted to do something about it." “Yeah, but what could prayer do?" “Among other
things, it could change my attitude in a way nothing else could." And that was the beginning of Ouray and
Father Tony's friendship. Father Tony helped Ouray to understand that forgiving yourself isn't easy, but
since everyone messes up sometime in their life it's something everyone needs to learn how to do.
"Everyone has two choices," Father Tony said. "They can refuse to forgive themselves, like Judas, and be
remembered forever as failures; or they can accept forgiveness and forgive themselves, like Peter, and
become better people because of their mistakes." Ouray didn't change overnight. His tough act had
become part of who he was; he couldn't just drop it. Eventually, however, he did stop looking for
punishment everywhere he went. He also stopped doing things just to prove himself, and he became
better at accepting his own failures and the failures of others. I guess you could say that Ouray eventually
decided he would rather be like Peter than like Judas.
Reflection Questions
1. Why couldn't Ouray forgive himself?
2. When is it hardest to forgive ourselves?
Transcribed Image Text:The car he was driving had skidded off the road and flipped over in a ditch. The woman who was with him had been seriously injured. No charges had been laid and no one had ever said that it was Tony's fault. "But," Father Tony explained, “I was sure that everyone secretly blamed me and thought that I was a bad driver. I wanted to prove to the world – or at least to myself – that I knew what I was doing behind the wheel. I started driving faster and more recklessly, just to show that I could handle a car. I reached the point where none of my friends would ride with me. Then that happened," he said, pointing to the picture. "I was in the hospital for a long time. I'm lucky I came out alive. "While I was in the hospital, an evangelical minister used to come and visit me. He said my problem was that I was a sinner who was refusing the Lord's forgiveness. At first I just thought he was crazy. But I had a lot of time to think while I was lying in traction, and I began to think that maybe he was right. I knew I had never forgiven myself for the accident that paralyzed Rachel. As I lay in that bed, I began to see that because I hadn't forgiven myself, I kept doing more and more stupid things. I wanted to punish myself or to prove that what I did wasn't really that bad. The accident was the starting point for one long line of failures. I started to see that unless I found a way to put that accident behind me for good, things would just keep getting worse." "So what did you do?" "Since I didn't know what else to do, I started to pray for forgiveness." Ouray had been leaning forward listening intently, but when Father Tony mentioned prayer, he slumped back into the chair and recrossed his arms. "I should have known that's what a priest would do." “I wasn't a priest then, Ouray. fact, I wasn't very interested od. I was just a university student who didn't like the way his life was going and who wanted to do something about it." “Yeah, but what could prayer do?" “Among other things, it could change my attitude in a way nothing else could." And that was the beginning of Ouray and Father Tony's friendship. Father Tony helped Ouray to understand that forgiving yourself isn't easy, but since everyone messes up sometime in their life it's something everyone needs to learn how to do. "Everyone has two choices," Father Tony said. "They can refuse to forgive themselves, like Judas, and be remembered forever as failures; or they can accept forgiveness and forgive themselves, like Peter, and become better people because of their mistakes." Ouray didn't change overnight. His tough act had become part of who he was; he couldn't just drop it. Eventually, however, he did stop looking for punishment everywhere he went. He also stopped doing things just to prove himself, and he became better at accepting his own failures and the failures of others. I guess you could say that Ouray eventually decided he would rather be like Peter than like Judas. Reflection Questions 1. Why couldn't Ouray forgive himself? 2. When is it hardest to forgive ourselves?
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