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2 Seasons of marriage Fall and Winter The Fall Season of Marriage 1. Describe the “Fall” season of marriage? The pursuits that usher couples into their autumnal matrimony are The biggest factor contributing to the autumn season of marriage is unquestionably neglect or doing nothing at all. It seems that the underlying presumption is that the marriage will work itself out. Due to their diverse interests, husbands and wives often overlook to take the necessary steps to ensure a good marriage. They consequently gradually move apart (Inman, 2023). A crisis, such an extramarital affair, may shock them into realizing that their marriage is in the fall season, but in actuality, they had been in the fall season for weeks or even months prior to the crisis. 2. How do people get into this season? There are many different ways that people celebrate the arrival of fall. In the fall, people often feel emotionally depleted and start to suffer feelings of sadness, uncertainty, and rejection. Fall is a common time for couples to be blissfully ignorant that they are actually experiencing the beginnings of romantic feelings (Inman, 2023). As the season progresses, the pair starts to emotionally disengage and drift apart. Couples sense an underlying tension, but they can't put their finger on what it is. Disconnection and feelings of being uncared for: When couples acknowledge problems, they don't ignore them. Their respective culpabilities for the issues are attributed to one another. Those close to them who have spent time in the fall season may be the first to notice the changes. 3. How do people get out of this season? One way people emerge from the fall is by independently determining the source of their emotions. They pause for a while to consider the marriage, their sentiments about it, and the reasons behind it (Timothy-Springer & Johnson, 2018). Another way individuals escape the autumn season is by not blaming each other. Assaulting the other team with a backhand

3 stroke in order to validate emotions is a form of finger-pointing. It is the fault of the people that they do not value the memory of a single day. According to research (Timothy-Springer & Johnson, 2018), couples tend to be more adept at pointing out each other's shortcomings than the general public. People are able to admit when they've failed and forgive their partners when they work through past and present issues. 4. What are three things that you can learn from the Fall season of marriage. My experience with married couples has shown me that poor communication is the primary cause of marital dissolution during the autumn season. Everything revolves around me: my reactions to events, my interpretations of those events, my perspective on things, and my innermost thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires. As humans, we yearn to be acknowledged and understood (Kakhramonovich, 2021). There is no more crucial part of communication that goes unnoticed than that. In addition, the most important thing is not the circumstances we face, but rather our interpretation of those circumstances. Success or failure in every relationship depends on how we choose to see things, but marriage in particular. Therefore, a positive outlook may be accounted for by adopting a more optimistic frame of mind. 5. Describe some examples of the Fall season of marriage from your personal experience of people you know. From what I have seen and heard from others I know, Joan and Willy's marriage only began eight months ago, yet they already talk about how it was like an autumn wedding. Trust was either broken or never established during the first months of their marriage since their families were allowed to step in. Their current efforts to mend their connection are based on the biblical mandate to forsake one's parents and rely on one another. Another couple with 19 years of marriage is Patrick and Tricia. Their nomadic lifestyle is a result of Patrick's military service. Problems have arisen in their marriage throughout the

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4 late autumn and early winter. Following a year of intense rehabilitation efforts, they are making good progress toward a return to spring (Timothy-Springer & Johnson, 2018). It became clear to them both that they may lose during his one-year deployment to Iraq. 6. From a Christian worldview, describe some strategies that you might implement to address the Fall season of marriage. The emotional climate of my marriage may be greatly improved with the help of certain strategies that will motivate me to embrace good mindsets and behaviors. Both my own and my spouse's emotions will be shaped by our attitudes and actions. I will be able to keep and strengthen my marriage with the help of these biblically-based strategies. Instead of focusing on winning arguments, I discover more practical answers and have more connection with my spouse when I strive to solve problems. The second option is to learn how fulfilling it is to contribute to my partner's success. According to Timothy-Springer and Johnson (2018), we need a significant change in attitude. The employment of positive influence is another crucial strategy. Looking back at my past experiences and considering my present situation, I don't think my husband will now decide to come along. The Winter Season of Marriage 1. Describe the “Winter” season of marriage. A season of bitterness is the winter season of a marriage. Feeling hopeless and pessimistic about the future of their relationship is common for couples. Wives and husbands often react defensively to every perceived offence because they are fragile and too sensitive. When couples engage in unhealthy habits, wallow in self-pity, and fail to motivate themselves, they may unwittingly drag out the Winter season. Catalysts for changing seasons can include things like external trauma, family strife, personal crises, retreats, or spiritual encounters. A couple may not be able to prevent all triggers, but they do have influence over how they react to those that do (Timothy-Springer & Johnson, 2018). They might be experiencing a tough

5 patch right now. 2. How do people get into this season? There is a wide range of ways in which people approach the marriage winter season. Discordant and harmful acts characterize most of the responses. Intentionally or unintentionally, they are meant to hurt the spouse. Some of Winter's behaviours include becoming confrontational, using harsh words, or just being silent. On some level, either the conscious or unconscious mind wants to hurt the other partner by being mean or violent (Aleksiun et al., 2020). Some spouses may be unhappy and want to move on. Conversely, there is a positive side to the winter season. According to Chapman, couples have a tendency to maintain a positive outlook. Instead of just lying down and dying in the snow, people actively seek help. Forgiveness frees us to love more deeply, and trials teach us to be patient and resilient. 3. How do people get out of this season? Seeking counsel might help people escape the cold season. Pick a couple that has been together for a decade or more. At some point in their life, the vast majority of people will face adversity. No one else can save or fulfill a person as a spouse can, but people still put unreasonable expectations on their partners despite the fact that they should be seeking what the Lord can give from their spouse. Before they even ask, they assume they will be perfectly attentive, understanding, and mindful of their requirements (Timothy-Springer & Johnson, 2018). The only one who can bring them this kind of solace is the Lord. Their insatiable appetite can only be sated by a God who is infinitely powerful. 4. What are three things that you can learn from the Winter season of marriage? In the midst of the worst hour of my marriage, I learnt to embrace the promise, love without condition, and forgive without conditions. At some time in most marriages, problems will arise. Any signs of annoyance, frustration, or emotional distance between you and your

6 spouse are not indicative of a failing marriage (Inman, 2023). A connection is developing between you. Whether we're well or sick, wealthy or poor, there's a reason we make the vow to love and cherish one other until death separates us. If we want to get off the boat at some time, we have to make a pledge. 5. Describe some examples of the Winter season of marriage from your personal experience of people you know . From my own observations, I can say that couples who are afraid to confront their differences are enduring the "winter season" of marriage. Squabbles break out in conversation, and the partners go silent. Nobody feels like they belong anywhere. Two individuals seem to be residing in different igloos. As an example, George is a married man of 44 years standing in Jacksonville, Florida, who has been with his wife for 18 years (Aleksiun et al., 2020). The state of his marriage is somewhat disheartening. He is emotionally distant, although he knows he should love his wife. His wife shows no signs of affection, admiration, or devotion for him. 6. From a Christian worldview, describe some strategies that you might implement to address the Winter season of marriage. One approach I may use to tackle the winter season of marriage is to deal with past failures. While this strategy is useful for any married couple, those who tie the knot in the winter will have to spend extra time reflecting on and learning from their mistakes. Focusing on the here and now and the future is more important than dwelling on the past. Couples who base their outlook on biblical principles tend to be more optimistic. To bring glory to God, via serving and helping one's spouse to reach his or her God-given potential, is the ultimate goal of marriage (Kakhramonovich, 2021). The second strategy is to figure out what my partner's "love language" is. One must master the art of speaking another person's "love language" if

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7 they want to make them feel loved. References Aleksiun, N., Banyai, V., Faure, L. H., Judd, R., Ofer, D., Reuss, A., & Bartash, V. (2020). Jewish and Romani Families in the Holocaust and its Aftermath . Rutgers University Press. https://www.academia.edu/download/65154872/Jewish_and_Romani_Families_na_acade mia.pdf Inman, J. S. (2023). Evaluating the Influence of Reciprocity of Meeting Partner's Temperament Needs in Terms of Marital Intimacy. https://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=5744&context=doctoral

8 Kakhramonovich, A. A. (2021). Cognitive And Linguocultural Features of The English Wedding Ceremony. Zien Journal of Social Sciences and Humanities , 3 , 49-54. https://www.zienjournals.com/index.php/zjssh/article/download/401/303 Timothy-Springer, R., & Johnson, E. J. (2018). Qualitative study on the experiences of married couples. Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment , 28 (7), 889-902. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Emmanuel-Johnson- 7/publication/324536215_QUALITATIVE_STUDY_ON_THE_COPING_STRATEGIES _TO_THE_CHALLENGES_OF_MARITAL_LIFE/links/5cb4b8fd92851c8d22edf6dc/Q UALITATIVE-STUDY-ON-THE-COPING-STRATEGIES-TO-THE-CHALLENGES- OF-MARITAL-LIFE.pdf

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