There was a recent issue during a social gathering I host on weekends. My culture can be traditional and have gender roles, so it is expected for the women to be indoors cooking for the men who are outside. Men are not allowed inside either unless an elder or husband is present. Again, this is normal to my culture. On this specific gathering, my husband was the one cooking. Our marriage is not very traditional in the eyes of my culture. This prompted a very heated debate about the duties of a wife. One friend, A, was very upset and went on a long rant about how women need to serve their men as his religion taught him. My husband politely reminded him that we have never been traditional. We approach our marriage in a more modern way. A few more friends began to chime in with their views that were later swayed by friend A. This person was very vocal, whipped out bible verses to support his view, and insisted he was right. He refused to hear any argument. Gradually all our friends began to agree with him and get aggressive about how a wife should be there to cater to guests, cook, and ensure the children did not bother the men. When my husband countered their perspective by saying he needed to contribute just as much to the marriage, they shook their head. There were not listening. Group polarization was in full effect with friend A as the leader. The discussion was getting very heated, so we did not bother to argue. We let the discussion go. Unfortunately, friend A turned to my husband and loudly ranted about how he needs to force me to do my duties like a good wife of the bible. He was crossing lines at this point. My husband just excused himself and ended the night. From the below statment explain why this was a good example of groupthining We could have asked an elder for their perspective. Everyone listens to elders in my culture so it would have been possible to give wisdom that could have prevented group polarization. If would have also been a good idea to separate married friends from single friends. It is easy to agree to an idea when there is no firsthand experience. For example, friends A was newly married and friend B was single and never married. He liked the idea of a woman waiting on him, so he agreed with friend A. He had no experience. There are so many solutions but at the end of the day, all the men apologized. They were entitled to their views but should not have tried to force them upon my husband or myself.
There was a recent issue during a social gathering I host on weekends. My culture can be traditional and have gender roles, so it is expected for the women to be indoors cooking for the men who are outside. Men are not allowed inside either unless an elder or husband is present. Again, this is normal to my culture. On this specific gathering, my husband was the one cooking. Our marriage is not very traditional in the eyes of my culture. This prompted a very heated debate about the duties of a wife. One friend, A, was very upset and went on a long rant about how women need to serve their men as his religion taught him. My husband politely reminded him that we have never been traditional. We approach our marriage in a more modern way.
A few more friends began to chime in with their views that were later swayed by friend A. This person was very vocal, whipped out bible verses to support his view, and insisted he was right. He refused to hear any argument. Gradually all our friends began to agree with him and get aggressive about how a wife should be there to cater to guests, cook, and ensure the children did not bother the men. When my husband countered their perspective by saying he needed to contribute just as much to the marriage, they shook their head. There were not listening. Group polarization was in full effect with friend A as the leader. The discussion was getting very heated, so we did not bother to argue. We let the discussion go. Unfortunately, friend A turned to my husband and loudly ranted about how he needs to force me to do my duties like a good wife of the bible. He was crossing lines at this point. My husband just excused himself and ended the night.
From the below statment explain why this was a good example of groupthining
We could have asked an elder for their perspective. Everyone listens to elders in my culture so it would have been possible to give wisdom that could have prevented group polarization. If would have also been a good idea to separate married friends from single friends. It is easy to agree to an idea when there is no firsthand experience. For example, friends A was newly married and friend B was single and never married. He liked the idea of a woman waiting on him, so he agreed with friend A. He had no experience. There are so many solutions but at the end of the day, all the men apologized. They were entitled to their views but should not have tried to force them upon my husband or myself.
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