2nd Coaching Session & Evaluation AI & NVC RUBRIC

2 ND COACHING SESSION PAGE | 3 Provide details and examples on when "coach expressed and identified feelings not thoughts" was accomplished or how it could be accomplished. See an array of words that denotes the language of emotions below. ● UNSATISFACTORY: coaching NVC skill not practiced. Makes inappropriate evaluations of feelings and has a hard time identifying or naming feelings. ● COMPETENT: coaching NVC skill practiced some of the time. Sets a strong language foundation and reads body language in a way that allows for the identification of emotions. ● SKILLFUL: coaching NVC skill practiced consistently. Coach is able to consistently differentiate and express emotions in a way that does not imply judgment, criticism, the blame of punishment. The coach is able to name the emotion, without moral judgment, while enabling a connection in a spirit of mutual respect and cooperation. How we are likely to feel when our needs “are” being met ( Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life , pg. 44) Absorbed Cheerful Encouraged Glowing Merry Secure Adventurous Comfortable Energetic Grateful Mirthful Sensitive Affectionate Complacent Engrossed Gratified Moved Serene Alert Composed Enlivened Happy Optimistic Spellbound Alive Concerned Enthusiastic Helpful Overjoyed Splendid Amazed Confident Excited Hopeful Peaceful Stimulated Amused Contented Exhilarated Inquisitive Perky Surprised Animated Cool Expansive Inspired Pleasant Tender Appreciative Curious Expectant Intense Pleased Thankful Ardent Dazzled Exultant Interested Proud Thrilled Aroused Delighted Fascinated Intrigued Quiet Touched Astonished Eager Free Invigorated Radiant Tranquil Blissful Ebullient Friendly Involved Rapturous Trusting Breathless Ecstatic Fulfilled Joyous Refreshed Upbeat Buoyant Effervescent Glad Jubilant Relaxed Warm Calm Elated Gleeful Loving Relieved Wonderful Carefree Enchanted Glorious Mellow Satisfied Zestful How we are likely to feel when our needs “are not” being met (Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, pg. 45-46) Afraid Confused Downhearted Hostile Nettled Startled Aggravated Cool Dull Hot Numb Surprised

2 ND COACHING SESSION PAGE | 6 In this section, please follow the scale ● 0= UNSATISFACTORY : coaching skill not practiced ● 1= COMPETENT : coaching skill practiced some of the time ● 2= SKILLFUL : coaching skill practiced consistently Competencies (1.3.2, 2.11.3, 2.14.1) In this section, please follow the scale below 0 1 2 15. Defining (an appreciative topic) The topic provides the structure for a clear and appropriate conversation on what you want to accomplish. Get clear on what you’re inquiring about. Gain clarity by asking: ○ What the problem is and then consider what do you want to grow? ○ What do you want to see, hear, feel or do more of? ○ What will success look like? Condense your topic down to two or three words. If you find it difficult to identify an affirmative topic try tipping a problem on its head. For example, rather than your focus being on ‘losing weight,’ your affirmative topic could be ‘living well’. ● UNSATISFACTORY: coaching AI skill not practiced. Coach is unable to define and narrow an appreciative topic to explore. ● COMPETENT: coaching AI skill practiced some of the time. Coach sets a good language foundation and is able to assist the coaching partner in defining an appreciative topic to inquire. Coach would benefit from consistently move the dial of the conversation to an appreciative and focused space. ● SKILLFUL: coaching AI skill practiced consistently. Coach is able to consistently assist the coaching partner in defining the topic/s of interest, using a language that respects both the autonomy of the person and the possibility of the moment. Competencies (1.3.2, 2.11.3, 2.14.1) In this section, please follow the scale below 0 1 2 16. Discovers (the best of the past) ● Provide details and examples on when "coach assisted in the discovery process" either by asking: ○ Best experience ○ Core values ○ Generative conditions ○ Three wishes ● Discovering stories of past strengths, high performance, and best practices help to create the confidence and momentum that unleashes higher levels of performance. You can uncover stories about a past performance by asking: ○ “Tell me about..” and words like “most…” or “best…” For example, “Tell me about a time when you’ve felt most alive, engaged, and proud of the work that you’ve done.”

2 ND COACHING SESSION PAGE | 9 ● low in confidence Developing High Self Esteem ● Support and encouragement ● Lead by example ● Encourage peer relationships ● Provide a “home environment” where stress is held to a manageable level ● Keep expectations high, but oriented to successful acquisitions ● Provide feedback that is positive, yet realistic ● Construct a coherent plan of discipline in one’s life Maintaining Self-Esteem ● Celebrate strengths and achievements ● Forgive yourself for your mistakes and be able to accept and learn from them ● Don’t dwell on weaknesses; every human has them ● Change the way you talk to your self-stop self-bashing ● Be sure that you are not judging yourself against unreasonable standards ● Berating yourself for your weaknesses is self-defeating. ● Use the energy for positive thoughts about yourself! ● Not overly worried about failing or being foolish ● Not aggressively trying to prove themselves People With High Self-Esteem ● Able to accept and learn from their own mistakes ● Confident without being obnoxious or conceited ● Not devastated by criticism ● Not overly defensive when questioned ● Not easily defeated by setbacks and obstacles ● Unlikely to feel a need to beat up on others & ● Have goals and can plan for the future ● “If I talked to others the way I talk to myself, I would have no friends” ● anonymous ● “I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan UNSATISFACTORY: coaching skill not practiced. Coach is unable to address when a client talks in absolutes, fails to address negative self-talk and reframe to past successes, fails to recognize statements such as “I have no choice” or “I can't” to “I don’t like my choices, but I will…”, realizing that a client always has choices. COMPETENT: coaching skill practiced some of the time. Sets a good language foundation and is able to recognize statements that might indicate self-esteem (either negative or positive). SKILLFUL: coaching skill practiced consistently. Coach assists the client in identifying negative core beliefs and explores reasons to dispute such beliefs by encouraging re-framing. Coach encourages or leads open- ended questions, affirmations, or reflections with sentence structures that build self-esteem, such as “you gain strength from…”, “you love when…”, ‘you believe that…”, “you feel empowered when…”, “your loved ones are proud of you because…”, “your best quality is…”, “you are looking forward to…”, “your greatest accomplishment today was…”, “Today, you are grateful for…” Assist client in the process of developing decision making and problem-solving skills. Competency (2.4.5) In this section, please follow the scale below