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Dec 6, 2023
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Would you identify one more time what you want? (Write down what
they want.) Daughter: Only wants to visit colleges on the other side of the state,
Washington State University, Eastern Washington University, or Central Washington University. She is determined and strong-willed and it shows in her tone and body language, she does not appear to
be open to what the parent is trying to say.
Parent: Would like the daughter to look at options on this side of the
state, such as: University of Washington or Western Washington University. Is trying to get the daughter to be more open minded and does not want the daughter to discount what she is trying to say, seem a little frustrated and upset, she does seem to be understanding of where the daughter is coming but doesn’t want to argue.
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Let me take each one of the wants you’ve identified and ask you about them so that I make sure I’m getting the full picture. (Gain their consent to proceed; then explore each want).
Daughter:
Is not interested in going to the schools nearby.
Does not feel like there is anything that the schools offer on this side of the mountain that she is interested in.
Does not want to waste time going to visit because she already made up her mind on not going to any of the nearby schools.
Parent:
The colleges around here are great schools.
They are closer, and you can live here for free while attending.
There are great programs the local colleges offer.
3.
What will be true after you get what you “want” that isn’t true now? (You may, in various forms, need to repeat this question as you dig to find what is beneath the “want” that has been expressed. Daughter:
Thinks that it is a waste of time to check out schools that she is not interested in.
Wants to see what it is like to live somewhere different.
Worries that she will not fit in with the types of people who go to the schools closer to home.
Parent:
The winters get a lot of snow and her driving in bad conditions.
What if there is an emergency, and we are not close to help or
be there.
Will miss being able to see her often.
4.
Continue to ask the “Critical Question” regarding each “want” until you think you have uncovered the INTERESTS lying beneath the “want.”
What was uncovered by continuing to ask the daughter follow up questions was that it took a lot of consideration for her to discover that
she wanted to follow up with her bachelor’s degree program after she gets her associate degree this spring, she has already been going to a local community college and taking mostly virtual classes. She is ready
to get out of her comfort zone and is ready for the next step after high school on her own, meet new people and have different life experiences.
What was uncovered by the parent, was that they are struggling with their first born growing up and ready to fly and is worried that there is nobody close enough if the daughter needs something. 5.
See if you and your partner can come to an agreement that is satisfactory to the two of you. The parent and the daughter came to a mutual agreement that the daughter would be open to visit all the state colleges in Washington
before making her final decision, but the decision will ultimately get to be chosen by the daughter.
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